Ask Yourself: Where Are YOU Going?

I am now in my 8th year of training and 5th year working in the fitness and performance industry.

I have spent, and continue to spend, an insane number of hours in a place most people make it to twice a week, and others don’t even think about.

Because of this I have seen and heard some tragic, hilarious and confusing things relating to people’s health and fitness.

– Squat rack curls

– Half squats

– Invented exercises

– and even the gratuitously-naked-old-guy-in-the-change-rooms.

Of everything I have witnessed, what I find most disturbing of all is when people speak poorly about themselves.

“I’m not fit enough to workout.”

“I kind of want to do this, but I know it’s a stupid goal.”

“I suck.”

Where I work, I call people out if they speak negatively.

Don’t say “I can’t”, don’t say “it’s too hard” and NEVER say you aren’t good enough. The reason you are training is to better yourself, don’t be the one holding yourself back with a poor attitude!

I have seen grossly overweight people sweating profusely, and extremely skinny guys grinding away on bicep curls.

I have also seen muscular guys spending the entire workout texting and hitting on girls, and others who move from machine to machine reading an outdated and torn up issue of National Geographic.

While some would look at the first group and think “why even bother?”, the ONLY thing that comes into my head is “Good for you. You actually give a shit and want to improve yourself, and I hope to God you continue because you have the power to become better”.

I want to walk up to them, look them in the eye, tell them “you are doing a fantastic f**king job” and give them a high-five.

These are the people I want to see in the gym, and the people I want to work with.


Because I see it like this:

It doesn’t matter where you are now, it matters where you are going.

The jacked guy who prefers to chat or the magazine reader who doesn’t want to work has WAY less potential than the overweight person who dreams of abs or the skinny guy who is determined to fill out a bigger shirt.

These people are working towards their goals. It takes courage to come into a pretty intimidating place scattered with strong, fit, and possibly sleeveless people grunting, sweating, and tossing around some seriously heavy iron.

We all start at the bottom.

We were all intimidated the first time we walked in the gym. We were all unhappy with our bodies or abilities to one degree or another, and we know what it means like to feel like the smallest or fattest person in the gym and think everyone looking at you thinking “why the f*ck is that person even here?”.

Nobody gets to where they are now by telling themselves that their goals are stupid or that they flat out suck.

Focusing all your energy on where you are now and how unhappy you are isn’t the mindset for success. You have to believe in yourself, and focus your energy on where you want to go. You have the power to make yourself better, and you have the power to make yourself happy.

It doesn’t matter what your goal is.

Whether it’s 100lbs of fat loss or 10lbs.

A world-record deadlift or to simply deadlift for the first time.

What matters is that you forget about where you are now, and focus on where you want to be.

Ask yourself:

Where are YOU going?


Photo Sources: where are you going, over, treadmill

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